Positive attitude. Seems trivial. What’s more basic then that?
Well, as trivial as it is, having the habit of holding a positive attitude, even in the most demanding situations is not that simple. I think that in order to do so, one has to understand clearly why it is so important.
Your attitude is one of the first things people will notice about you. I guess that most people won’t start to analyze rationally your attitude, but most of them will surely remain with some sort of first emotional impression about it.
Even more important then this is the fact that usually other people’s reactions toward you, will, to some extent, reflect your attitude back to you. As simple as that, if you smile to somebody, he’ll usually smile back, if you whine to someone, he’ll usually immediately start to tell you about his troubles.
The effect of having the right or wrong attitude is even stronger, in modern-day organizations with complex, multi-dimensional matrix organizational structures. Unlike past, simple hierarchical organizations, where people had the chance to know each other on a more intimate level, and get past first impressions, in the contemporary organization, you might interact with people for a very brief moment, and the first impression you made, the one that is largely affected by your attitude, might just be your last one.
Once you understand how crucial it is to maintain the positive attitude, the question that remains is how to do it?
Maybe the first thing to do is to understand your current present attitude. This can be done by asking people you know about it. You can ask people you trust and you think would be honest with you. It is important to also ask people with whom you might have some difficulties (I intend to write a post about feedback in the near future, and I’m going to elaborate some more on this subject).
Once you understand your current attitude you’ll probably know which parts are your strengths and which are your shortcomings. I’ve found out that the increased awareness about those behaviors immediately make me increase the good, positive ones and decrease the bad, negative ones.
Other things that work for me are:
- Smiling a lot without giving up being honest.
- Being optimistic by seeing the positive side of everything. When coming to think about this, almost nothing is totally bad or good, you can choose which side you want to emphasize!
- Being empathic to others by really listening and understanding their point of view.
Good luck, please let me know what you think, what works for you?
HoM

