(Or: Why You’re Still Doing 327 Tasks Yourself)
Following last week’s post
the one about the courage to speak up
today we move to one of the quietest challenges in leadership:
The courage to trust.
Yes. Quiet.
Because unlike “the courage to speak,” which you feel in your body,
the courage to trust happens in your head
before a single word is spoken.
And that’s exactly what makes it so deceptive.
Let’s step into a real moment.
Middle of the day.
Your screen is full of spreadsheets.
Your phone is buzzing like an unbalanced washing machine.
The room smells like yesterday’s workday never got a chance to breathe.
One of your team members stops at your door:
“Want me to take this?”
And you answer, almost automatically:
“It’s okay, I’ll just do it myself. It’s faster.”
The moment the words leave your mouth,
there’s a brief, quiet second
where you can almost hear the truth hit the wall.
Faster? Maybe.
Better? Almost never.
So why don’t we trust?
Not because they’re not capable.
And not because you’re a perfectionist (even if that’s a comforting story to tell yourself).
But because of habit.
The habit that feels good in your hands,
like holding a cup of coffee even after it’s gone cold.
The small fear that they won’t do it exactly like you would.
The slight tightening in your back when you imagine a possible mistake.
The mind that starts working overtime, running scenarios of “and then I’ll have to fix it.”
So one task… and another… and another…
stay with you.
But here’s the truth no one says out loud:
The trust you give your team
is first and foremost trust you give yourself.
Not in their ability
in your ability to let go without falling apart.
To guide without suffocating.
To support without carrying the whole world on your shoulders.
Authority is common.
Responsibility is everywhere.
But letting go?
That’s where the courage hides.
So what happens to a leader who doesn’t trust?
Three things, almost always:
1. They become a super-doer.
Working instead of leading.
Surviving instead of shaping.
2. Their team learns:
“If I try, they’ll just take it back, so why bother?”
3. And that feeling…
like a weight on your chest.
A constant load.
The smell of a workday that never gets enough oxygen.
And what happens when trust begins?
Suddenly there’s movement.
Suddenly there’s initiative.
People start moving forward, not because you told them to,
but because they want to.
They discover they can.
You discover you were never meant to do everything alone.
And leadership?
It starts to feel like leadership
not like swimming upstream all day.
Before you scroll on,
Pause for ten seconds.
Breathe.
And ask yourself:
Which task are you holding onto
only because you didn’t have the courage to let go?
And what thought jumps into your mind
the moment you imagine giving it to someone else?
That’s where courage begins.
That’s where growth begins.
Next week, we’ll move into the third kind:
the courage to experiment.
And that’s a whole different world
the world where leaders stop only preserving,
and start creating.
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